Have you ever felt that way—some people make you feel and at ease from the very first meeting, while with others, no matter how hard you try, it just feels awkward?
I’m over fifty now, and I’ve come to believe this more and more:
The people around you shape the path you walk.
There’s a line from Guo Degang’s crosstalk that stuck with me:
“Make friends with those who drink, not those who gamble. Drinkers want you to drink more—the more you drink, the stronger the bond. Gamblers want you to lose more—the more you lose, the thinner the connection.”
Think about it—it’s rough but true!
Looking back on my life, most of my “benefactors” have been bosses or clients. Some might call it a “transactional relationship,” but I know better:
If someone chooses you, it’s because you’re worth choosing.
Don’t let jealousy or resentment fool you—their downfall won’t make you rise.
So here’s the big question: How can you quickly tell if someone is worth keeping close?
Don’t worry—our ancestors left us a few “mystical tricks.”
1. See how they act when interests are on the line
There’s a saying in Lüshi Chunqiu:
“Though gain may not benefit all, what matters is a heart rich in kindness.”
In simple terms, see how someone acts when interests are involved:
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- Do they hog the benefits, or are they willing to share?
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- Do they only think of themselves, or do they consider others?
True “benefactors” often understand: “Share the wealth, keep the people.”
2. Check your zodiac compatibility
Some people don’t believe in this, but I’ve tested it—it’s scarily accurate! For example:
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- Monkey, Rat, and Dragon form a “Sanhe” (triad) combination;
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- Monkey and Snake form a “Liuhe” (hexad) match.
If their zodiac sign matches yours, things often go smoothly.
3. Sense the vibe between you
Do you feel comfortable and relaxed around someone, or uneasy and irritated?
Your intuition rarely lies—that’s your energies doing a “auto-match.”
4. Try these fun mystical tests
Why not give these a try:
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- Handshake: If their palm is warm and dry, they’re likely positive and healthy; if it’s cold and clammy… maybe keep observing.
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- Wear crystal or jade: If your jewelry appears brighter or smoother around someone, your auras might be compatible.
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- Light incense: If the smoke rises straight and doesn’t scatter easily when you’re together—this connection might be meant to be.
One last thing
When it comes to friendship, 30% is mysticism, 70% is sincerity.
You attract the people you’re meant to attract.
May you recognize—at a glance—those who help you become a better version of yourself.
No worries if you’re not sure—follow me, and let’s be friends first!
So, who has been a “benefactor” in your life? How did they change your path? Share your story in the comments—you might be someone else’s benefactor too!
原文
你有没有过这种感觉——有的人初次见面就让你觉得亲切自然，而有的人怎么处，总感觉别扭？
我年过五十，越来越认同一句话：你身边是啥人，你就容易走啥路。
郭德纲有段相声里说得妙：“交朋友要交喝酒的，别交爱赌的。喝酒的想让你多喝，感情越喝越厚；爱赌的盼你多输，感情越输越薄。”
细品，真是这个理儿！
回顾我的经历，人生中的“贵人”大多是领导或甲方。有人觉得这是“利用关系”，但我很清楚：别人愿意选择你，必然是你身上有值得的地方。 别被“仇富”“酸葡萄”心理带偏了，他们过得不好，你也不会因此更富有。
那问题来了：怎样快速分辨一个人值不值得深交？别急，老祖宗早就留了几招“玄学小法门”。
1. 看利益面前的吃相
《吕氏春秋》里有句话：“利虽不得博于物，要其心之厚于仁。”简单说，就是看一个人在利益面前：
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- 是吃独食，还是懂得分享？
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- 是只顾自己，还是会想到别人？
真正的“贵人”，往往懂得“钱散人聚”的道理。
2. 看属相合不合
有人不信这个，但我亲测过——真的挺准！比如：
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- 属猴、鼠、龙，是“三合”；
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- 属猴和属蛇，是“六合”。
如果对方的属相和你相合，相处起来往往顺风顺水。
3. 感受气场对不对
靠近某人时，你是觉得舒服、放松，还是心里莫名烦躁？身体的直觉最诚实，这就是你们的磁场在“自动匹配”。
4. 玄学小实验
不妨来几个小测试：
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- 握手：手心干爽温暖的，多半气血足、心态好；如果湿冷……那就多观察观察吧。
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- 佩戴水晶或玉石：如果和某人在一起时，饰品变得更亮更润，说明你们气场相合。
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- 点香：一起点支香，烟直直往上、不轻易散开——这份缘分，可能真有点讲究。
最后说一句
交朋友这事儿，三分靠玄学，七分靠真心。你是什么样的人，就会吸引什么样的朋友。
愿你能在人海中，一眼认出那个能让你变得更好的人。
算不准没关系，关注我，咱们先交个朋友！
那么，你生命中遇到过的“贵人”是谁？他们对你的人生产生过什么影响？欢迎在评论区分享你的故事，说不定你就是别人眼里的“贵人”哦！
