Time always moves faster than we expect.
In the blink of an eye, a day is gone.
With a single turn of the head, a year has passed.
This year, we finally stepped out of the shadow of the pandemic.
Some people restarted their lives.
Some chose entirely new paths.
Some focused on healing old wounds.
Stumbling forward became the shared undertone of the year.
But the good news is this: we made it through.
Because deep down, everyone has something they want to pursue—and something they want to protect.
At the very end of 2025, I want to say this to you:
Thank you. You’ve truly worked hard.
The following eight thoughts are written especially for you—
for the very, very tired you.
01 | Allow Yourself to Be Ordinary
Allow things to go wrong.
Allow your mood to sink unexpectedly.
Allow effort to bring no immediate results.
Allow yourself to be imperfect.
This year, did you give a lot and hope for a lot, only to find that the outcome fell short?
You still struggle to stay emotionally steady.
Some responsibilities feel too heavy.
Some pressures feel impossible to bear.
That’s okay. Don’t rush to blame yourself.
You need to allow things to happen.
Because whether you allow them or not, what is meant to happen will happen anyway.
The only difference is this: refusing to allow it adds extra weight to your own heart.
Life has no formula and no standard answers.
You don’t have to be right every day.
You don’t have to be excellent all the time.
Encourage yourself to soar when you can—but also allow yourself to rest in the fields when you need to.
May your strength take more than one form.
May it include not only resistance, but also acceptance.
02 | You May Be Stuck Emotionally, Not at the End of the Road
Was there a moment this year when you felt completely trapped?
As if life had turned pitch black, with no exit in sight?
But think again, calmly:
You can still eat, walk, sleep, smile.
Life has not taken away what matters most.
You were simply trapped by something painful, unsure of what to do next.
Once you find clarity—once a solution appears—those things will pass.
Don’t let difficult circumstances destroy your mood as well.
The harder things get, the more important it is to steady your emotions.
As long as your emotions don’t spiral, life hasn’t reached a dead end.
03 | Most Pain Comes From Values, Not Reality
Aside from illness, most pain is not concrete—it comes from how we interpret things.
Physical pain is real and measurable.
Mental suffering, however, expands or shrinks depending on perspective.
If money defines everything for you, losing it feels unbearable.
If it doesn’t, its loss barely shakes you.
If you believe love must be absolute loyalty, betrayal feels catastrophic.
If you see love as a choice, betrayal becomes just another turning point.
What hurts you is rarely the event itself—it’s the meaning you assign to it.
We can’t control people or circumstances,
but we can adjust how we view them.
Change the perspective, and much of the pain dissolves on its own.
04 | If You Can’t Solve It, Ask for Help—If Not, Let It Go
You must have faced many difficulties this year.
In life. In work. In relationships.
One problem after another, relentless.
Don’t be afraid. Everyone’s life is an exam.
Answer the questions you know how to answer.
For the rest, ask others, look things up, try slowly.
If there truly is no solution, put it down and move on to the next question.
Doing your best is enough.
Knowing when to stop is not failure.
Life has more than one battlefield.
Save your strength for the next round.
05 | Don’t Suffer in Advance for Things That Haven’t Happened
Worrying before something happens is one form of suffering.
Enduring it when it happens is another.
Replaying it afterward is a third.
This year, did you worry about countless possibilities?
Look back—today, you’re still here.
Most of the things you feared never actually happened.
You were simply paying for anxiety in advance.
Don’t look too far ahead.
Living this moment well is already an achievement.
Turn the page the wind opens.
No worry before, no fear during, no regret after.
06 | Being Safe and Steady Is an Achievement
What did you lose this year?
What did you gain?
If nothing comes to mind, that’s the best possible answer.
No major disasters. No irreversible losses.
That alone is luck.
In a world that changes too fast,
stability is a blessing,
and ordinariness is peace.
No disasters is success.
No loss is gain.
A cup is fullest not when it overflows,
but when the water meets the rim exactly.
07 | Other People’s Pace Is Not Necessarily Your Race
This year, did you ever feel unable to lie flat, yet too exhausted to compete?
Pushed by the times. Forced by circumstances.
It’s exhausting.
But remember:
you may not even be in the same race.
When effort costs you dearly but yields little, pause and ask:
Why am I running this way?
Is there another path?
Effective effort happens on your track.
On someone else’s target, even a perfect hit may not count.
08 | Some Things Don’t Need to Be Understood
What did you finally figure out this year?
What still confuses you?
Some things you understand naturally—that’s what you needed to know.
Some things never make sense—perhaps life is telling you they’re unnecessary right now.
Understanding often comes from hitting walls.
Not understanding may simply mean life has been kind to you.
You don’t need to understand everything to live well.
Understanding is good.
Not understanding is also okay.
Time is too thin to carry all the years.
Our fingers are too wide to hold onto the past.
2025 is drawing to a close.
It may not have been perfect—but every day was honestly lived.
For what worked out, be grateful.
For what didn’t, let it go.
All experiences have meaning.
All gains and losses have their causes.
Thank you—for enduring, for trying, for making it through this year.
原文
写给很累的你：2025年终的8句自我宽慰
时间总是快得让人猝不及防，一眨眼就是一天，一回头就是一年。
这一年，我们刚刚从疫情的阴影中走出来：
- 有人重启生活，
- 有人另换赛道，
- 有人修复创伤。
磕磕绊绊，是这一年的共同底色。
但好在，我们都咬牙挺过来了。因为每个人心中，都有自己想追逐、也想守护的东西。
在 2025 年的最后关口，想对你说一句：谢谢你，真的辛苦了。
下面这 8 句话，想特别留给——很累很累的你。
01｜允许自己，只是一个普通人
允许一些意外发生，允许情绪突然低落，允许努力暂时没有结果，允许自己并不完美。
这一年，你是不是也付出了很多、期待了很多，却没能等来理想的答案？
你依然做不到情绪稳定，遇事沉着；有些责任扛不起，有些压力顶不住。
没关系，别急着责怪自己。
你要允许一切发生。因为你不允许，该发生的事依然会发生；而不允许，只会额外给自己增加负担。
人生没有公式，也没有标准答案。你不必每天正确，也不必时时优秀。
要鼓励自己飞上枝头，也要允许自己暂时在田间歇脚。
愿你的强大，不只有对抗这一种形式，也包含“允许”这个选项。
02｜你走进的，可能只是情绪的死胡同
这一年，有没有某个瞬间，你觉得自己已经走投无路？
你以为人生从此只剩黑暗，再无出口。
可静下心想一想：你依然能吃能走，能笑能睡，生活并没有夺走你最珍贵的东西。
你只是被某些糟糕的事情困住了，一时想不开。
等你想通了，办法出现了，那些事终会过去。
别让事情不好，就连心情也一并崩塌。越是艰难的时候，越要努力让心情站稳脚跟。
只要情绪不钻牛角尖，人生就不会真的走进死胡同。
03｜痛苦，大多来自你的价值观
除了生病，绝大多数痛苦并非真实存在，而是源自我们对事情的看法。
肉体的疼痛，真实而具体；而精神的痛苦，可深可浅，可大可小。
你视金钱如命，失去它便万念俱灰；你不在乎金钱，它的来去便难以撼动你。
你坚信爱情必须忠贞，背叛便是毁灭；你将爱情视为选择，背叛便只是一次分叉。
让你痛苦的，从来不是事情本身，而是你赋予它的意义。
我们改变不了环境和他人，但可以调整自己的态度与认知。
看法一换，许多痛苦就会自行消散。
04｜解决不了，就求助；再不行，就放下
这一年，你一定遇到过不少困难。
生活的、工作的、人际的，仿佛一题接一题，毫不留情。
别怕，每个人的人生都是一场考试。
会做的题，认真去做；不会的题，问人、查资料、慢慢试。
如果真的无解，那就先放下，继续答下一题。
凡事尽力即可，努力无望时，及时止损并不可耻。
人生不止一处战场，保留体力，才能迎接下一轮挑战。
05｜别提前为还没发生的事受苦
坏事尚未发生就焦虑一次，发生时再痛苦一次，事后反复回想，就是第三次折磨。
这一年，你是否也为许多可能性提前担忧过？
可回头看看，今天的你依然好好站在这里。
你担心的大多数事情，从未真正发生。
你只是提前预支了情绪。
别把目光投向太远的将来。能把当下过好，已经很了不起。
风吹哪页，读哪页。
事前不忧，事中不惧，事后不悔。
06｜平平安安，本身就是一种成就
这一年，你失去了什么？又得到了什么？
如果你一时说不出来，那反而是最好的答案。
没什么大事发生，没什么重大失去，这本身就是幸运。
在这个变化过快的时代，平稳就是福气，普通就是安稳。
无坏事、不败事，就是一种成就；不遗失、不坠落，就是一种收获。
杯中水，最满的状态不是溢出，而是恰好与杯口齐平。
07｜别人的节奏，不一定是你的赛道
这一年，你是否也有过既躺不平、又卷不动的时刻？
被时代推着走，被环境逼着选，你一定很累。
但请记住：你未必是在同一场比赛里。
当你付出巨大代价却收获甚微时，不妨停下来问问自己：
我为什么要这样跑？有没有别的方式？
真正有效的努力，是在属于自己的赛道上发力。
在别人的标靶上，即使射中十环，也未必计分。
08｜有些事，不懂也没关系
这一年，你想通了什么？又被什么困住了？
有些事，无师自通，那是你必须懂的；有些事，怎么都想不明白，那或许是生活在告诉你：现在还不必懂。
懂得太多，往往是撞过南墙的结果；而不懂，反而可能意味着生活顺遂。
你不需要理解一切，才能好好生活。
能懂更好，不懂也无妨。
时间太瘦，驮不动流年；指缝太宽，兜不住过往。
2025 年已进入倒计时。它或许并不完美，但每一天，都是你认真走过的痕迹。
如愿以偿的，心怀感恩；力所不及的，学会释怀。
好坏都是经历，得失自有因果。
谢谢你，这一年的坚持与努力。
